I am a fairly transparent person, always have been. To the point, that my mom wouldn't allow me to open gifts in front of people. I wasn't rude. She said you could read it on my face.
When I am happy, you know it.
When I am sad, you know it.
When I am angry.... um, yeah.... it's obvious.
When I speak, I say exactly what I mean. I don't mince words. There is no hidden subtext or agenda. A question is just a question. Nothing more than my settling my own curiosity. If I have an issue with the situation or your answer, then I will speak my mind. If I say nothing more, that means your answer satisfied my curiosity.
I also generally have an "agree to disagree" personality. Which is why I can be friends with people who have different opinions than I do.... politics, religion, etc. I don't mind if you have a differing opinion. What I do have a problem with is when a person is expressing an opinion as fact, or that is 100% in accurate.
Recently someone very close to me hurt me very deeply. Her comments stung not because of any conviction on my part... but because someone who I thought was so close to me would say something so horrible.... and untrue.
What also upset me was that this person was standing firmly in their righteous indignation, to the point of passing judgment upon others & expecting them to take this criticism .... totally unapologetic..... yet was the first person to throw a complete and total tantrum if someone where to dare correct her.
It brought me to this question:
Do we really want true authentic, transparent friendships?
Or do we really want a one way glass....where the other is transparent and we can pick them apart but yet our flaws are totally concealed to them, leaving us beyond reproof.
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